Wake Up with Susan

Feeling the Feels – Emotions as Messengers for Healing

• Susan Sutherland

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Hey there, beautiful souls! In this episode of Wake Up with Susan, we’re diving deep into the power of feeling our feelings—really sitting with our emotions instead of running from them. So often, we suppress or ignore our emotions because they feel too big, too scary, or just plain inconvenient. But what if our emotions are actually guiding us toward healing and self-discovery?

I’ll be sharing how you can use your emotions as messengers, helping you uncover where healing is needed instead of letting them control you. We’ll also talk about practical ways to regulate emotions, so they don’t feel overwhelming, and how to hold space for opposing emotions at the same time (yes, you can feel grateful and frustrated all at once!).

This episode is all about embracing emotional awareness, tuning into your inner wisdom, and learning to ride the waves of your feelings with more ease and grace. If you’ve ever felt like your emotions are too much, or you just want to feel more connected to yourself, this one’s for you!

Let’s wake up to the wisdom within. 💫

✨ Keywords Emotional Healing Feel Your Feelings Mindfulness Emotional Regulation Self-Awareness Conscious Living Inner Wisdom #WakeUpWithSusan

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Rise and shine everybody. It's time to wake up with Susan. Spiritual awakening can be a beautiful, messy and sometimes lonely journey, so let's do it together. I'm your host, susan Sutherland. I'm an intuitive healer and spiritual mentor. We are all called to rise up above our conditioning and limiting beliefs and shine our light on ourselves and others. So let's get to it.

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Hi, family, welcome to this week's episode where we are going to talk about emotions and feeling the feels and even how to regulate emotions. Last week I kind of touched on briefly giving you permission to feel all the feels, and that was a lot of the feedback I got in my messages last week was about kind of a lot of people being on an emotional roller coaster right now and experiencing so many emotions, and so I want to kind of dive into that a little further this week. All right, let's start at the beginning. What are emotions? Emotions are complex physiological and psychological responses to internal and external responses. So your thinking can create emotions. Your environment, your relationships can create emotions and they arise from how we perceive and interpret situations, and that's why a group of people can all be in the same environment experiencing the same things, but not feeling the same emotions because it is processed through our own individual lens of perception and that's why our experiences, even if they seem to mirror one another they seem to be exactly identical are going to be processed differently because they are going through our own unique lens. So, just so we know what we're talking about today. This is how I see it. Emotions are your immediate responses to stimuli, to whatever occurred. Your emotion is that initial response. Our feelings are how we mentally interpret those emotions, and then our moods are more of like a longer lasting emotional state that might not be just about one specific event, but kind of a culmination of everything going on in our world at any given time.

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So last week I touched on really allowing ourselves to feel the feels and us to stop judging emotions as good or bad Vibrations, and I've talked about this a lot with the David R Hawkins map of consciousness. That is more of when you stay in that vibration, when you stay in the vibration of shame, not when you experience shame, see it, feel it, process it, learn from it, extract from it and then move to a higher vibration, but it is when you are living in this constant place of shame and I know I feel like I am kind, of course, correcting myself, because I don't think I've been clear enough on that and I don't want to be part of that toxic positivity movement that makes you think that experiencing a lower vibrational emotion is going to somehow ruin your life or that you will now be manifesting from a place of shame because you had a moment of shame. I don't want that to be. In fact, half of the work that I'm doing right now internally and have been for years actually is about finding those places of trapped emotion and releasing them. Like this is something I felt shame about and instead of sitting with the shame, I tucked it down, and what that does is you carry it with you. It's like, hey, you don't want to deal with this as a 12 year old, you'll be able to unpack it when you're 45. Congratulations. This is the souvenir that you are taking from adolescence to adulthood, because I wasn't emotionally mature enough at that time to really express and sit with the feelings that I was feeling.

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So, as we are unpacking the emotions that we had when we were not mature enough to deal with them, we want to be sure not to be adding to them, and we do live in a culture that wants to just sweep things under the rug when they're not going well, when things are hard. So that's what I want to talk about today is really giving yourself permission to feel your emotions, to sit with your emotions and ask them questions and really almost just you know, wring the cloth dry of everything you can possibly drip out of it, because you will not only learn so much about yourself, but you are allowing yourself to release it in this current time, in this present time, instead of packing it away to deal with later. I've had it come through in a session before where somebody's back was really hurt and it was because, instead of dealing with things at the time, they're essentially like adding rocks to their book bag that they have to carry every day and their back is plenty strong enough to carry today's load, but it cannot carry 40 years worth of expectation and shame and guilt. The goal is for us to not only unpack through our healing journey of all of those times where it's actually I don't want to carry this anymore. I'm going to see it, I'm going to experience it right now and just say, okay, I see that I did that, I feel shame about that or I feel guilt about that and I'm going to honor that. I feel that and now we're done. We're done. That rock is coming out of the book bag and I'm not taking it with me anymore.

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And so I really kind of want us all especially now, as the energy feels a little volatile and it is tricky to be in this space where we know we are here to uplift the vibration of humanity. That is your calling, that is your job right now is to hold the light. But that is not to mean that you will not experience these emotions. It means that you are going to have the awareness to sit with them. And if you've got a dark room, how do you fix that? You bring light to it and that is what your awareness does. It does not mean you close the door and you say it's not dark in there, I am here with light, it's not dark in there. It is to open the door and say I see you darkness, I'm bringing light to you. So that's really important and I want to tell you a couple of ways for emotional regulation.

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This is also something oh my goodness, if you can please have these conversations with your children. We teach them some absolute bullshit in school. I mean some of it's valuable, okay, but then there is a lot that is not. And I can guarantee you finding the square root of pi divided by 142,000 will never come up in their life. I don't even know if that's like a legit kind of way to do a fraction, because I slept through that class, but I do know that they have opportunities all the live long day, that they need to know how to regulate their emotions, and this is not to suppress them, it is to honor them by saying I see you, I see what's happening here.

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I choose to witness this emotion while not being engulfed by it, so you don't have to be your emotions. In fact, that's tip number one is to know that you are not your emotions, you're not your thoughts and you are not your emotions. You are the consciousness that can bring awareness to the experience of having emotions. You're not your thoughts and you are not your emotions. You are the consciousness that can bring awareness to the experience of having emotions. You are not depressed, you are feeling depressed. See the difference of that? It is not who you are, it is what you are experiencing.

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So it's really tricky because in a lot of ways we say be, be in the moment, be where you are. It is not like I am going to run, it is. I am a runner, but with thoughts and emotions I would say don't do that. Be the witness to these experiences, because when you do it like that, you are less likely to be pulled underwater by the emotion. It becomes more of a curiosity, more of an interesting thing like oh, what is this sadness? Trying to tell me what is this grief? Trying to tell me, is this grief about this present moment or is there something else that it is reminding me of? I tell you, if you have lost someone close to you, I would say the next four funerals, or 10 years or perhaps more than that, that you attend have nothing to do with that person who has died. You will be reliving the experience of the loss of your close family member over and over and over.

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I went to my mother's funeral. I swear I went there 10 times because every person that died I went to my mother's funeral. I swear I went there 10 times because every person that died, somehow I was carried back to her funeral, to that overwhelming fear. Yes, I was about to say feeling, but fear, yes, that overwhelming fear that I am 18 and the closest person I have in my life and the only person I really thought at that time, understood me in kind of an emotional way. I mean, there were a lot of ways she didn't understand because I wasn't communicating honestly with her, but I feel like I had her ear and her heart more than anybody else off the planet, and when she died there was an emptiness that I couldn't describe to anybody and I didn't know how to process. I didn't know how to process it at all, and so I carried that with me. So when I was at somebody's funeral, I was reliving this over and over. Now my understanding would be that that was my call to action to really sit with that grief and to process it, to know myself through that grief. But I wasn't there yet and it took me into my late 30s before I was able to really understand and put words to what I was feeling then, and that's when the healing started to begin.

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But when you have these experiences and it takes you back to something that happened before, it's because you're still carrying it around, it is because you, it is wanting to be seen, it is wanting to be recognized, and a lot of times when we are carrying something around, when we are carrying something in our energy body. It is not like we had an intention that you know. Well, I'm going to store this for later. Of course, not A lot of it we did unconsciously because we didn't have awareness at the time, or even because we were in a compromised state. If your energy is in a compromised state because you are already dealing with a lot and something happens, then it is really hard to process that and you just grab onto it and it's like I'm not going to deal with this now but I'm going to deal with it later.

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And I have a lot of things in my physical world that I procrastinate on, like any kind of administrative work. To be quite honest, I procrastinate on and it is like I grab all of this paperwork and say it would be, it would be really easy if I would just tackle this now, but instead I'm just going to grab you all up and carry you around and allow you to be heavy for me until I finally collapse under the weight of it and decide to do it all. I don't know if that's a good analogy, but I'm rolling with it because that's what it feels like to me where I could just sit with it and do it and not bring the burden and also bring the freedom of I've processed that and it's done, but instead I I grab onto it and it's like let's just take a month's worth of crap and deal with it later and it kind of hovers in the back of my head Like you need to do that, you need to do that and that's kind of what we do with our emotions. But we have taught our children not to feel. We've taught our children to like dry their eyes really quickly and move on from emotion, and a good thing to do is instead ask them to name it.

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What is this emotion? This is also something you do yourself. When you are feeling it, it's like, okay, let me feel this emotion, is this sadness or is it something else? And when you start talking it through, the emotion may kind of evolve so that you understand it better. But when we teach our children first of all by example and by asking them questions and allowing them to put words to their emotions, well, how does that emotion make you feel? And asking them these questions so they start to become analytical of their emotions, and this is when you can really start to extract things like what is this emotion trying to tell me? It could be that this emotion, this feeling bullied at school, this feeling outcast, this feeling of whatever they're experiencing may be an opportunity to talk about boundaries or energy protection Like these are gateways for us to teach them how to manage their energy and manage their emotions.

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But it is also important for us not to act like any of these emotions are outside of them, that they should not be experiencing. Whether it is anger or rage or or anything, they are all valid emotions to have. It is trying to teach them and ourselves how to experience these emotions and process them in a way that is responsible and healthy, not only for us, but anybody that is, you know, in the way of our rage. We have to understand that journaling that out or writing it and burning it on a piece of paper or whatever is a responsible and healthy way to deal with rage. However, punching somebody in the face is, in fact, frowned upon, so don't do that.

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But when we start learning that emotions aren't bad, you don't need to feel bad for having emotion. We don't need to dry your eyes because you're hurt. You need to be able to express it and when we can put words to it, when we can name what we're feeling and then say where are you feeling this in your body, where do you feel this hurt? Because that, a lot of times, has additional information for what you are experiencing and it starts letting your body know that you are tuned into it as a communication device, which I am promising. You will change your world when you know that your body is merely a messenger.

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These kind of conversations about your feelings and about how it can feel in your body allow you to use your body and your emotion as awareness tools, and that's what it's meant for. Both of emotions and your body are meant to bring awareness to your experience, awareness to anything you are holding on to that needs to be released, and maybe it is. Maybe your emotion is just about this single situation. That could very well be, but the more you have this dialogue, the more you will know. Okay, is this about this? Or is this about a previous incident that I'm holding on to resentment? For I can guarantee you, in a lot of your spousal relationships, whatever argument you are having has zero to do with what you're talking about and has way more to do with something you're carrying around in you, either frustration or resentment or hurt feelings for something that was said before and that you didn't say. Hey, that really hurt my feelings, or this is how I perceive that situation because something got pressed down. Then it is wanting to be seen again and here comes this argument so that you can feel a new emotion and hopefully get back to that time, so that you can responsibly express what needs to be expressed.

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The other thing about tapping into your emotions and starting to witness them and name them and I'm talking about like don't wait, on a level eight, nine, 10 emotion have check-ins throughout the day to say what am I feeling right now? Like what is? What is my emotion? How would I describe? It could be content, it could be bored, like there might be nothing that would grab your attention. But when you can have daily cues throughout your day to just check in and say what is my emotion, what am I feeling right now, where am I feeling? That it allows you to bring so much more consciousness and awareness to your experience and then you will start noticing not just your primary emotions of happiness and sadness and anger, fear or surprise, but you will start having more awareness of those secondary emotions. Those are the emotions that are shaped by experience guilt, pride, shame, embarrassment. We pack those things down when you're embarrassed.

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How often do you want to sit with your embarrassment? I remember one time I was walking into the corporate office, which had this big foyer area before you got to the elevators, and it was raining outside and I walk into the office and slip and fall and I think my laptop must have slid like 40 feet across the foyer right. And so what do you do? You try to get up as fast as you can and kind of look around like did anybody see that? Yes, they saw that, you big flying fool. But instead of dealing with that and saying like, oh, that was really embarrassing, like now, what I would do is probably allow myself to laugh at myself. I even read something the other day that somebody sent me and I wish I would have reposted it, but I don't even know how to repost a carousel. I'm not sure if you can, but it had some of the best ways to feel fancy in this life or to bring light and laughter to this light. And one of them said after they do something stupid or fall, or they're clumsy or whatever they'll say and scene, and what a great way to just take something that was really embarrassing and then it just is like there was my bit for today.

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But that allows you to not carry this emotional energy, this stamp down energy, with you that will later come back up because all it does is want to be expressed. And do you know what? Let me tell you now. I was not in the lab when they were doing this study, but it is apparently studied. And emotions, when you feel emotions, their tenure in your system guess how long it is 90 seconds. 90 seconds. That's all we have to do to feel something, to feel it, to honor it and accept it, for it to transmute into a different emotion or be released is 90 seconds, y'all.

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I've been carrying some of this garbage around for decades. And if somebody would have just said, hey, why don't you sit with Sadness? Oh, and isn't there a movie where Sadness is a little blue person? Yes, her name might be Sadness. No, that's not a good name, but there is a joy. But if you can even imagine sitting with the little blue girl with the glasses and saying, look, sadness, I'm going to sit with you. I want to know what you have for me. I want to experience what you have in this moment. Give it to me, give it all to me for 90 seconds. Y'all. We would be floating around here like the freest flightiest people in the world if we weren't carrying decades of crap that we don't want to experience, like we don't want to feel it for 90 seconds. So I'm just going to carry it for decades. We're not going to do that anymore. All right, so I have to tell y'all another thing about emotions that came up for me this weekend that I really want to talk about, because I had a big, life-changing experience, and when I talk about soft lessons, this is what I mean. You can extract a really big lesson out of a very gentle scenario, and so when I tell you about me experiencing these emotions, I understand that this is a very soft lesson, and if you are going through a similar journey in a much harder lesson, then I'm sorry, because this is, this is soft, but I'm telling you I got a lot out of it, so I'm going to share it.

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I said goodbye to my beloved Dolly, my car that I've talked to you all about before. I told you I was. I had put down a deposit on a Rivian and I never felt connected to that Rivian. So I ended up dawdling a little longer. But this past weekend I went and got a very small SUV like a Lexus SUV and it's really cute and I've just started driving it. So I'm sure it'll even go up, but I've got 32 miles to the gallon, which my Tahoe very much did not get. That, and I was driving around this ginormous car by myself and it made no sense with or with one kid and it didn't make any sense at all. But I'm telling you I love that car, I love Dolly very much and because I am not afraid to be weird in my car and sit there and talk, I talk to myself, but a lot of times I just tell Dolly I'm talking to her and we're talking about my day and what's going on and I'm I'm so grateful to her for keeping me safe.

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So I went to the car dealership like we had already picked it out and ordered it and I had to wait on the one that I wanted. And when we went there, like it was so pretty and it had a bow on it but I had to go get the last of my things out of Dolly Y'all. This is what I experienced and I just wanted to cry. And I'm telling you, I was in a car dealership parking lot and I only a few tears escaped right, a few tears escaped, but I was trying to keep it together and I wanted to get home and just ball right. I wanted to get home and just like let it all out. Wanted to get home and just ball right. I wanted to get home and just like let it all out.

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And it was really an interesting opportunity for me to understand and see, especially before this podcast episode, that we can experience completely opposite emotions at the same time, and you have permission to do that. You can be sad for one thing while also being excited for another. Okay, there's no apologizing for that. We are complex, beautiful human beings who are capable of feeling more than one emotion at a time. And if somebody wishes to dismiss that or say how can you be sad about that? Look at this. It's like well, actually I'm quite capable of being both.

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When I got home, I sat with my journal and I kind of wrote a love letter to Dolly and in doing so I realized I don't really care about cars. You guys, that's my husband. He really does care about cars. I see it as a mode of transportation and I'm grateful for a reliable one and a cute one. That's great, but I don't care about cars. But what I realized is Lord, have mercy.

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It was also kind of the end of a phase in my parenting journey that I don't have three kids who rely on me for transportation and all of their friends piling in the back of my car and y'all and I have so many memories in that car of wonderful things we've done together and wonderful experiences. And it was I love Dolly, but it really had nothing to do with her so much as allowing myself to really sit with the sadness of that phase being gone, that phase of my parenting where I've got three kids and there's three friends and we're piled in the back and I was just thinking back to going and we would get fast food and milkshakes and ride around and look at Christmas lights and I can still do that in my new car. But what I was seeing was these memories that we've had in this car and I just wanted time to sit with that and feel that and honor that and I mean part of it is a sadness that it is over. That kind of phase is over is over. Now I only have one driver. It's not like they're all independent, but it still feels very much like a shift in that direction. I wanted to feel that sadness, but I also, you know, in that sadness was so much gratitude that I have had these experiences, that that we've created these memories and I do associate them with with Dolly and, and I just needed to honor that and and not be told like, why would you be sad? You have a new car now. Nobody told me that, but I'm hearing these conversations because I knew that this was going to be.

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My next podcast episode was about really being okay with having two sides of the same coin at the same time. You are experiencing all of these things and that is okay. So I did get in my new car and she was a lovely drive home and I enjoyed it very much and she's very quiet, which mark he likes a kind of car and that is not my jam at all. So she's perfect for me. She's tiny and fits nicely in my little parking spot and everything was good. And that night I had two kids who had friends come over for sleepovers and Dashiell had his girlfriend over for dinner. So we had eight of us around the table and having a nice meal, and I sat with this at the dinner table acknowledging this new phase that I'm also excited for that. I love having real conversations with my children and talking to them about big stuff, and I love this new phase.

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And so, in the same just little bits of time, I was experiencing just this tremendous sadness for what we were leaving and this tremendous happiness for what is beginning. And I allow myself to feel all of those things. And that's what I want you to do is just know that healing doesn't mean we don't feel these things. It means that we do so consciously. It means that our emotions are able to tell us a story of what we need to heal, or you know, just more insights about our journey and ourselves. And so we don't have to run from them. We have to really sink into them and say, oh okay, this is really beautiful that I get to feel the sadness. Let me see what's here for me.

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And it wasn't about a Tahoe, it wasn't about this car, it was about this phase with my family, and I wanted to sit with that. I wanted to sit and honor that, that phase, that beautiful phase I feel like when you have a baby, you have a constant like heart pull because they grow out of things so fast. It's like, oh, but I love these clothes, and two weeks later they're gone and they're in the next size up. And there's this constant into the new. But oh, this was so sweet. But I've been in a phase for a little while that just felt steady and it felt, I don't know, easy and safe. And now we're talking about colleges and having girlfriends for dinner and things are shifting and that's really exciting. But my heart wanted to kind of sit with like, oh, where are my little babies, where are my little people? And so I did honor that and I wouldn't go around telling everybody that I'm crying over a car.

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But I'm telling you guys because I want you to understand that, as you are going through changes in your life, you can be excited for new beginnings, you can know about the opportunity that is in front of you, that you are making the right choices and you are taking the steps you need to take for your next part of your life, while also honoring the sadness, while also honoring the grief of what was or the expectations of what could have been, and the more we can sit with that, the more we can just really rest into allowing those emotions to speak to and through you, to allow them to be expressed in their fullness and say what do you have to tell me? What does the sadness have to tell me? Because a lot of times it is going to pin back to expectations or limitations that you have. It is meant to show you where you were performing for other people, where you were making your choices in alignment with society's expectations, but not your own. And so when we use these emotions to just go deeper and just go deeper, we are able to uncover so much. And in doing so, when you use those emotions to find your chains, you have the opportunity to release them. You have the opportunity to say okay, I'm feeling you now, so that I don't have to take you with me, I don't have to take this with me anymore. So that's what I wanted to talk to you about today. So we're going to talk a little bit about emotional regulation and how to process it, because there are going to be times that you are at a car dealership and it is not appropriate for you to sit down and ball and write in your journal. Okay, but you can get through it until you have that time and just make that time, carve out that space to invite the emotion back and say, okay, I'm ready for you now.

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But in the meantime, some things that you can do is witness the emotion. I always say, if you can always like, just extract yourself from your body and hover over your head and say, oh, what is Susan feeling? That will take the enormity of the situation out. It diffuses the overwhelm. The ability for a wave to pull you under is when you extract yourself and say, oh, let me see what's going on right now. So I really encourage you to be the witness of the emotion, especially if it starts to feel overwhelming. You can even talk about yourself in third person. That is very helpful, to remove yourself from the body and say what is susan going through right now? What is rebecca going through right now? What is maria going through right now? What are these people going through right now? But it is not all encompassing to you because you have just you left and you were just watching the show. You're watching the show to see what's going on and that buys you time until you can say, okay, I am Susan and I know that sadness is waiting for me. I would like to experience that now, knowing I'm going to get it all. I'm going all in for 90 seconds and then I'm going to sit there and I'm going to extract as much as I can out of it, because it has years and decades, decades of healing available to me if I'm willing to do that work. And then I don't have to carry that with me, not to tomorrow and not for another decade.

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Another thing you can do is called box breathing. This is pretty common, so you've probably heard of it before. But a box is perfectly square, it is even on all sides, and so with box breathing, your inhale hold, exhale hold are all the same length. So if you inhale for a count of four, you hold it at the top for a count of four. You exhale for a count of four and then you hold that for a count of four, and this has a way of just completely regulating your nervous system. It distracts your mind because you're counting and it brings breath back to your body and allows you to calm that down. And so if you're experiencing really intense anger or frustration or sadness or just kind of overwhelmed, I really invite you back to your breath, to have that box breath, to just regulate your nervous system until you are at a place, because, y'all, there are times when a fire is blazing too brightly for a fireman to really work on it. Right, they have to allow it to be contained a little bit before they can go and do their work.

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And sometimes our emotions feel like that too, where we need to bring it back to a place that we can even work with it, because when you are at the height of anger and conflict or sadness, sometimes you might just need to sit with that or cry or release it, but that is not when you need to go and start extracting all of the information. Allow yourself to get back to neutral before you try to get all of the nuggets out of it, and that could be hours later, days later. The point is to come back to it because you are going to come back to it. It's just when? When are you going to come back to it? Is it because it's been stifled for 30 years and it's wrecking your physical health? Or because you remembered when you had quiet time later to grab a cup of tea and go sit with the emotion. That's the responsible thing we're doing.

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That is what healing and conscious living is is bringing awareness to these things. You don't get to bypass emotions. You don't get to avoid having these sticky feelings. It's part of the experience and when you can understand how much information is available to you in these emotions, you can start understanding them to be really beautiful. Same as with your triggers. When you get triggered, it's like, oh, we've got a learning opportunity here, and then you might not be able to deal with that trigger right in that moment, but you can come back and say, okay, that was extra, susan, why were you so frustrated? Why were you so crazy about the situation? There is wisdom to be gained here. That is what conscious living is. That is what awareness is Is when we understand how much information for our growth and our expansion is available in these triggers and in our emotions. It is finding the dark closets and opening up and shining your flashlight in on them. That's the only way to bring the light to them. It is not by slamming three more doors and saying I am not going to deal with that. That's not what we're going to do. We're not going to teach our children do that.

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Other ways for emotional regulation that you can do and you can encourage your kids to do is always in mindful movement. Any kind of walk or yoga or spending time outside allows our nervous system to recalibrate, to come back to a feeling of balance, and so we should really encourage that. We should encourage our kids to begin activity every day, because when they are locked in a classroom and then locked in a bedroom and not getting that kind of movement, they are starting off life from a lower vibration point and not able to handle the ebbs and flows of their wild emotions very well. So really encourage activity and get it for yourself. Know that mindful movement is a great way to process emotions, not to mention if you can go on a walk, and go on a walk without noise in your ear. It is really good to have those quiet conversations with yourself and really get that introspection into what's going on.

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I've mentioned EFT tapping before. There are videos on YouTube of how to do it, but I highly recommend EFT tapping for calming your nervous system and also if things come up through your kind of emotional diagnosis what am I dealing with? What am I holding on to? There are amazing ways to use EFT tapping to release the hold that old experiences or old emotions have on you. I like Brad Yates. His YouTube channel is Brad Yates. He is great and if you look up specific things about tapping, he's got tons of videos that will walk you through how to tap through and release limiting beliefs.

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A lot of times what we're holding on is self-judgment and self-loathing, and we can tap and release that. Also, self-compassion is the best thing you can do for emotional regulation. We beat ourselves up, especially in the spiritual community, so far into the high vibes only camp that we have made it, where it is not good to express these lower vibration emotions. And I'm telling you, a good cry is is golden. It is golden, it is a beautiful release.

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And when we see crying as purging, like these are the things I no longer need to carry with me. I'm not talking about like putting on beaches and crying to their story, but I mean nothing wrong with that, but getting real with your own story and if there is something that is wishing to be expressed through tears, allowing that is a really beautiful way to purge this, this energy that you don't want to carry with you anymore. So I just really want us to focus on honoring your emotions and knowing how much wisdom is contained in each of them, so that we don't run from them. You don't need to run from sadness, you don't need to run from anger. You need to sit with it and allow it to speak to you so that you understand what is really trying to be expressed and known. So that's what we're going to do, and if you want to be happy and sad at the same time, you can do that.

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If you want to be like nervous and excited they are, they do show up exactly the same. So if you are nervous, just tell yourself you're excited. But it's okay to experience opposite emotions. But it's okay to experience opposite emotions. You are that amazing that you are completely capable of being both excited for new and sad about the old. That's fine. You can be grateful for an opportunity and also terrified, that's okay. I just want us to start putting some words on what we're feeling. Let's stop running away from it. Let's just like, lean straight on into it Now.

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Once you lean on into it, I expect you not to be there forever, because you are extracting the wisdom so that you can be released from those chains, so you don't get to linger there. We have to be accountable for our actions, that we are gaining the wisdom and then picking our asses straight on up off the floor, not straight on up. If you want to sit down there, sit down there. But I always say, you can have a pity potty, just don't forget to flush. You can be down there for a minute, but you cannot stay down there because that's not what we're doing. That's we're. We're seeing and expressing these emotions so that they don't hold us down. So hold yourself accountable to then getting up.

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I gave you 90 seconds. I'm just kidding. I'll give you hours to sit with your emotion. Just don't allow it to spin you into a victim mode. You are doing this because you are not a victim. You are doing this because you are consciousness, you are awareness that is allowing yourself to see what you were experiencing, so that it does not hold you stagnant. We are being freed by this, not held down by this, because you ain't a victim. All right, you guys. So that's, that's all I have for you this week. Go, feel your feels, feel all of your feels, and I hope you can feel this one. I love you. Have a good week.

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