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Anchoring in Love: Finding Stability in Life's Storms

• Susan Sutherland

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✨ Anchoring in Love | Spiritual Grounding for Healers, Empaths & Lightworkers ✨

Are you feeling overwhelmed, untethered, or navigating uncertainty? This episode of Anchoring in Love: Finding Stability in Life’s Storms is a sacred space to remember who you are—beyond the chaos.

In this grounded yet soul-stirring transmission, we dive deep into what it truly means to anchor in love ~ not as an idea, but as a daily, embodied devotion.

🌀 This episode is for the lightworkers, empaths, healers, and soul-led leaders moving through expansion, transformation, and deep emotional waves.

🌿 What you’ll receive:

*Why anchoring doesn’t require proof—just practice
*Simple ways to root into love (without losing yourself)
*How to return to your inner truth when everything around you feels chaotic
*A reminder that drifting is not failure—it's an invitation to come home
*Heart-centered leadership tools and spiritual grounding rituals

💗 You don’t need to earn love. You just need to return to it.

Whether you're navigating emotional overwhelm, looking for nervous system regulation tools, or seeking clarity in your spiritual awakening journey—this episode is here to hold you.

🎧 Tune in now if you're ready to:

~Reconnect with your center
~Lead from your heart
~Embody love in real-time
~Heal, align, and expand

🦋 Perfect for:
#Empaths #Lightworkers #SpiritualAwakening #SoulHealing #HeartCenteredLeadership #SpiritualEmbodiment #GroundingPractices #DivineFeminineEnergy #HealingJourney #ConsciousLeadership

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Speaker 1:

Rise and shine everybody. It's time to wake up with Susan. Spiritual awakening can be a beautiful, messy and sometimes lonely journey, so let's do it together. I'm your host, susan Sutherland. I'm an intuitive healer and spiritual mentor. We are all called to rise up above our conditioning and limiting beliefs and shine our light on ourselves and others. So let's get to it.

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Hello family, today's message is soft, but it is strong, and it came through in a moment where I found myself drifting. You know that feeling when you're not sure if you're standing in your power or being sucked away by somebody else's current or even the collective's current. That's what happened to me, and I sat with that feeling and what came through was this anchor in love, not in outcomes, not in a controlled timeline, not in being right or being seen just love. So if you've ever felt untethered or uncertain or cracked open in any way lately, this one is for you. Last week, we talked about trees needing wind so that their roots grew deep enough that when they grew tall, they could support them, and apparently the universe saw that as my requesting a windstorm, lots of opportunities to grow my roots. Because that's what's happened this week. I stood in the wind, but I received the message about anchoring and love and then I got lots of opportunity to practice it so that now I can share it with you.

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Anchoring doesn't mean you don't wobble or feel the waves or even take water on board or hardly get any sleep because you're worried about your child. It means you return. The bigger the anchor, the more ship can get tossed about without getting lost at sea. So let's talk about that because, quite honestly, a lot of you seem to be feeling seasick. We need to anchor this into our practice.

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Anchoring in love is a practice. It's a return, a moment-to to moment, choosing to come back to your center, especially when nothing around you feels steady. You have to drop into your heart and, just like a boat doesn't anchor only when the seas are calm, we have to know that this practice is something we do whether we're calm or the seas are rough. You have decided that your peace and your worth and your truth and your love are worth staying close to and that choosing to live from that center allows you to show up for others in your best way. So what does practice mean? It means coming back when you feel like you're drifting. It means choosing presence when you would rather numb. It means rooting in love even when fear is louder. It doesn't mean that you're going to get it all right. It means that you will afford yourself and others grace by leading with love. It means we remember where home is. To anchor is to come back to the center of your being, which is love, even when nothing outside of you feels steady.

Speaker 1:

Anchoring in love is not like soft or fluffy. It's actually fierce, it's sacred. It's choosing presence over panic and choosing grace over grasping. It's saying I'm not going to chase alignment, I'm going to become it. But it does require practice.

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When we feel disconnected, when we start drifting, our mind starts to look for proof, proof that we're doing everything right or that we're on time, proof that we're supported, proof that love is here, proof that we're on the right track and everything is going to work out. But anchoring doesn't come through evidence. Love doesn't come with receipts. It's not measured in applause or validation or outcomes. It comes through devotion. It is the conscious choice of faith over fear. You don't anchor because things look good. You anchor because you've chosen to root in truth, even when the winds pick up. Anchoring isn't about perfection. It's not something you earn. It's something you practice over and over again coming back when you forget, returning to love without needing to prove that you're worthy of it, because you are. There are a thousand reasons why we drift. I'm going to give you some of mine. And where I drifted showed me where I had false anchors, where I was hanging on to the wrong thing. It could be energetic overwhelm, trying to hold space for someone else without really protecting your boundaries. It can be internal doubt, old patterns, even grief, and it's okay to drift. Drifting isn't failure, it's an invitation. It shows us those places we're still anchoring into, instead of love, this illusion of control, hello Susan, the need to be understood, the chase for certainty, and when you see it, don't shame it. Just come back.

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Last week, when the markets took a dip, I started kind of going through our plan, our timeline, what's going to happen? You know we are counting on this money for the next phase of what I think is my purpose and my passion, but also to enable Mark to find his. And I didn't get super panicked about it, but it was playing in my mind and I was thinking about it and just kind of like rewriting the script. Well, if this, then this, and I sat down on my computer and again, it was just kind of casual, but I went to log in and because of the security, you have to choose a hundred different ways to log in, like your email, your password, and then it's going to text you. And when I was sitting there I heard anger and love, anger and love. And I thought, okay, when I, when I sink down to my heart, these are the truths that I know, I am logging in out of fear I am. The only thing I'm going to create is anxiety and this, this illusion of control that somehow my logging in and knowing something is going to change it. Well, I'll go ahead and tell you I am not our portfolio manager at all. We have somebody hired for that. So my logging in is not going to in any way change the course of action.

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But I had seen people posting about their losses. I knew it was bad, but I saw people posting dollar amounts and I got nervous and curious, but not curious in the inspired divine align way, curious in the oh shit, what are we going to do? Kind of way. And it wasn't panic button. But I realized when I was sitting there that nothing good could come of this, because I was definitely not anchored in love. I was anchored in this illusion that I was controlling the next part of my journey, that this was the ticket, and I needed to know what was going on. And as I sat there, I realized how stupid I am for even thinking that, because me logging in wasn't going to change anything except make me more anxious, and so I ended up just closing out the browser and moving along.

Speaker 1:

But that message kept coming up when I encountered any kind of resistance, and it was very different patterns of resistance that came in. That reminded me to anchor in love, and so I'm pretty, pretty sure it could be used across the board. But I'm going to give you a couple more of mine. That was the illusion of control, and I needed to release that because that was definitely from a place of fear and not centered in love and feeling supported and in trust. So that was one of them. And again, I say that because I don't take action on our stock portfolio, there was nothing for me to do. It was all an emotional entanglement that somehow I had control and I don't. I don't have control of the overall market. Now I do have some new intel on financial stuff I'm going to share with you soon that I thought was really profound energetically. But that's not for today, so stay tuned for later.

Speaker 1:

Today's message hello family. Today's message is soft but it is strong, and it came through in a moment where I found myself drifting. You know that feeling when you're not sure if you're standing in your power or being sucked away by somebody else's current or even the collective's current. That's what happened to me and I sat with that feeling and what came through was this anchor in love. Not in outcomes, not in a controlled timeline, not in being right or being seen just love. So if you've ever felt untethered or uncertain or cracked open in any way lately, this one is for you. Last week we talked about trees needing wind so that their roots grew deep enough that when they grew tall, they could support them, and apparently the universe saw that as my requesting a windstorm, lots of opportunities to grow my roots, because that's what's happened this week. I stood in the wind, but I received the message about anchoring and love, and then I got lots of opportunity to practice it so that now I can share it with you.

Speaker 1:

Anchoring doesn't mean you don't wobble or feel the waves or even take water on board or hardly get any sleep because you're worried about your child. It means you've returned. The bigger the anchor, the more ship can get tossed about without getting lost at sea. So let's talk about that because, quite honestly, a lot of you seem to be feeling seasick. We need to anchor this into our practice.

Speaker 1:

Anchoring in love is a practice. It's a return, a moment-to-moment, choosing to come back to your center, especially when nothing around you feels steady. You have to drop into your heart and, just like a boat doesn't anchor only when the seas are calm. We have to know that this practice is something we do whether we're calm or the seas are rough. You have decided that your peace and your worth and your truth and your love are worth staying close to and that choosing to live from that center allows you to show up for others in your best way. So what does practice mean? It means coming back when you feel like you're drifting. It means choosing presence when you would rather numb. It means rooting in love even when fear is louder. It doesn't mean that you're going to get it all right. It means that you will afford yourself and others grace by leading with love. It means we remember where home is. To anchor is to come back to the center of your being, which is love, even when nothing outside of you feels steady.

Speaker 1:

Anchoring in love is not like soft or fluffy. It's actually fierce, it's sacred. It's choosing presence over panic and choosing grace over grasping. It's saying I'm not going to chase alignment, I'm going to become it. But it does require practice.

Speaker 1:

When we feel disconnected, when we start drifting, our mind starts to look for proof. Proof that we're doing everything right or that we're on time. Proof that we're supported. Proof that love is here. Proof that we're on the right track and everything is going to work out. But anchoring doesn't come through evidence. Love doesn't come with receipts. It's not measured in applause or validation or outcomes. It comes through devotion. It is the conscious choice of faith over fear. You don't anchor because things look good. You anchor because you've chosen to root in truth, even when the winds pick up.

Speaker 1:

Anchoring isn't about perfection. It's not something you earn. It's something you practice over and over again, coming back when you forget, returning to love without needing to prove that you're worthy of it Because you are, without needing to prove that you're worthy of it Because you are. There are a thousand reasons why we drift. I'm going to give you some of mine. And where I drifted showed me where I had false anchors, where I was hanging on to the wrong thing. It could be energetic overwhelm, trying to hold space for someone else without really protecting your boundaries. It can be internal doubt, old patterns, even grief, and it's okay to drift. Drifting isn't failure, it's an invitation. It shows us those places we're still anchoring into instead of love. This illusion of control, hello Susan. The need to be understood. The chase for certainty. This illusion of control, hello Susan, the need to be understood. The chase for certainty. And when you see it, don't shame it. Just come back.

Speaker 1:

Last week, when the markets took a dip, I started kind of going through our plan, our timeline, what's going to happen? You know we are counting on this money for the next phase of what I think is my purpose and my passion, but also to enable Mark to find his. And I didn't get super panicked about it, but it was playing in my mind and I was thinking about it and just kind of like rewriting the script. Well, if this, then this. And I sat down on my computer and again it was just kind of casual, but I went to log in and, because of the security, you have to choose a hundred different ways to log in, like your email, your password, and then it's going to text you, and when I was sitting there, I heard anger and love, anger and love, and I thought, okay, when I, when I sink down to my heart, these are the truths that I know. I am logging in out of fear I am. The only thing I'm going to create is anxiety and this, this illusion of control, that somehow my logging in and knowing something is going to change it. Well, I'll go ahead and tell you I am not our portfolio manager at all. We have somebody hired for that. So my logging in is not going to in any way change the course of action.

Speaker 1:

But I had seen people posting about their losses. I knew it was bad. But I saw people posting dollar amounts and I got curious, but not from a place of feeling supported. I got nervous and curious, but not curious in the inspired divine align way, curious in the oh shit, what are we going to do? Kind of way, and it wasn't panic button.

Speaker 1:

But I realized when I was sitting there that nothing good could come of this, because I was definitely not anchored in love. I was anchored in this illusion that I was controlling the next part of my journey, that this was the ticket and I needed to know what was going on. And as I sat there, I realized how stupid I am for even thinking that, because me logging in wasn't going to change anything except make me more anxious, and so I ended up just closing out the browser and moving along. But that message kept coming up when I encountered any kind of resistance, and it was very different patterns of resistance that came in that reminded me any kind of resistance, and it was very different patterns of resistance that came in that reminded me to anchor in love. And so I'm pretty, pretty sure it could be used across the board. But I'm going to give you a couple more of mine. That was the illusion of control, and I needed to release that because that was definitely from a place of fear and not centered in love and feeling supported and in trust. So that was one of them. And again I say that because I don't take action on our stock portfolio, there was nothing for me to do. It was all an emotional entanglement that somehow I had control and I don't. I don't have control of the overall market. Now I do have some new intel on financial stuff I'm going to share with you soon that I thought was really profound energetically. But that's not for today, so stay tuned for later.

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Life has a lot of level ups, new opportunities to expand and learn and grow them, roots and parenting. Goodness gracious, they come often and some of them are really beautiful, even in the kind of heart soreness that they have, like when you leave your kid for the first time overnight or when you take them to school for the first time. Those are leveling up opportunities. Right, haven't done it first. It's a big challenge. Can I do this? How am I going to show up for them and for myself? Or when you take them to college, which is a level I haven't even gotten to yet.

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But this weekend I hit a level that I wasn't expecting. It was not on the agenda and it wasn't one of those fun moments for sure. The wind was blowing and my roots were deepening and I had the opportunity to be who I say I am, to show up in a way that I'm proud of. This weekend I had the opportunity to hold space for a child that was lost in pain and heartache. It was not a fun mothering opportunity, but it was also a sacred one to sit and witness and hold space with love and compassion and not judgment.

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And initially I got to confess I started drifting. How could this have happened? He doesn't listen. My heart was so sad because in him I was seeing myself as a teenager numbing out pain just as he was trying to. I really thought I had done enough, that my kids wouldn't have to feel this way. And then I realized he's writing his own story. So I allowed myself to sink into my heart and I kept resting in the phrase anchor in love. If my response and my words feel that they are true to that, to that core center of love, then I am giving what the situation needs to hold space and almost excitement and pride that he has the opportunity to heal two bloodlines of men who are not encouraged or able to express feelings. I sat quietly and I loved him from the inside, sending calm and knowing that his highest timeline will not be free of adversity either. And I'm called to just walk beside him or sleep in the hall near him if that's what the night calls for.

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A much lighter opportunity came to anchor in love. Over the weekend, my daughter spent the night at a friend's house and was going to go to church and a download came for her to take the process of discernment with her to church. And she is not the one to text with a message that, hey, your higher self would like you to know. Like that's not the message. Navigating guidance with a teen is just tricky, and giving advice before church felt uncomfortable because I really want my kids to know that I support their own path of curiosity and discovery. So I started running through my head about trying to find perfection with words and how to navigate this, and it felt like my monkey mind took over for a few minutes and I had to anchor into love, to sink into my heart and ask for guidance of how to transmit a message in a way that was received as it was intended, which, if you have ever communicated with teenagers over text, you really have to set that intention strongly. So then I sent her a message and I am going to share it with you all, because it didn't feel like it was just for her.

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Nevertheless, the version she received was when you are at church this morning, I would like you to have this in the back of your mind, because it is a really good time to practice, not just for church, but for life. Pay attention to your body. When something resonates as truth, you will know it, and when something doesn't, you will know that too. I don't ever want you to take anything as fact without running it through your inner knowing Not from teachers, not from coaches, not from ministers and not from your parents. Tune into your body and see what messages you receive. It may be the songs that light you up or something the minister says. I'm not sure what kind of church they go to, but there may be something that stirs you, as that's not quite right. Whatever, it doesn't really matter. What I want you to know is that you have a filter for decision-making and this is a good time to tune into it. She just sent a couple of words like okay, thanks, mom.

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And a kissy face, but I read into the energy of the message and what I felt was empowerment. And that's exactly what was intended to give our kids, our parents, anybody, the power back that they have this inner knowing, because the problem is no longer that they are lying to us. It is that we are believing that we are not tuning in to this inner knowing, and so I was really grateful that I took that pause and, instead of my Susan self quickly crafting a message or not sending it at all which is what I would be prone to do is like I'm going to overlook that, to sink into my heart and allow it to come forward in a way that it would be received in the way that it was intended, which was empowerment, this ability to discern. I wanted her to know that I'm not trying to steer her. I'm trying to help her learn to steer.

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So let's think about the reasons that we drift. External chaos Is there any of that? Y'all A little bit News, energy shifts, conflict. Internal chaos, the doubt, the fear, trying to fix other people, the lack of self-care. When you don't sleep or exercise, you lose that connection and you have to very intentionally call yourself back to center the illusion that personal power is in control of the narrative.

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What I was able to do when I saw that I was drifted was realize where I had false anchors. I was clinging on to controlling my future path, finding my value and my worth tied into someone else's experience. It's hard as a parent we do that, but I was attached to the story and it felt like fear. And when I attached to love, I could see the situation so differently, almost like an initiation for him and for me, a chance to open new conversations and for me to really be able to guide others from experience and not just from an inner knowing. I have an anchor of being impeccable with words that will often silence me. My ego wants to mess with the message and make sure it's palatable or controlled so that it's received. But when I tune into my heart, those anchors are lifted and anchoring in love. I felt so grounded and supported and aligned All right.

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So how do you do it? How do you anchor in love? You can take a deep breath with your hand on your heart. It brings you back mentally and physically. It brings you back to this heart center. You can say to yourself I am safe, I am loved, I am supported because you are, and a lot of times it's feeling that you're not that creates that cycle of fear and doubt. So remind yourself that you are. Let the earth hold you. Sink deep into your seat on the ground or a chair or whatever. Sink into the earth and know that you are held. Choose not to defend yourself in a moment of projection. If you are defensive, that is not from your heart center. Allow yourself the pause and the reset so that you respond in a new way. Speak your truth it may be softly, but make it clearly and release the need to be right.

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Anchoring of love is not about what you do. It is about the energy you return to. It's a gift that you give your nervous system. It's a love note to yourself and all of your people. It's the reason others can feel you, even before they find you. So remember this week to practice the pause and set the anchor before you act. If you feel yourself drifting, give yourself a gentle reminder I am the anchor. I am the light. Thank you for listening or watching this week. May the winds be calm, but your roots be ever strong. I love you so much. Hey, friends, it only takes a second to leave a five-star rating. Don't have time to write a review. That's okay, because clicking five stars takes no longer than clicking one star. So if you listened, you enjoyed it and you found this at all helpful, take a moment and leave me a rating on your favorite podcast app. Have a great week.

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