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Clearing the Myths: The Divine Feminine Remembered

• Susan Sutherland

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Forget everything you thought you knew about the divine feminine. This s conversation cuts through the Instagram-friendly version of feminine energy to reveal a powerful truth many seekers never discover. The divine feminine isn't about being perfectly soft or eternally nurturing—she's the fierce wildness that births worlds and holds the wisdom of endings.

For those feeling disconnected from spirituality because it seems too polished or passive, this episode offers a refreshing perspective. The divine feminine doesn't ask you to shrink or sacrifice or become some perfect, passive being. She invites you to remember your wholeness, to embody both the rose and the thorn. When we release the rigid boxes we've placed her in, we discover an energy that feels like coming home to ourselves.

I share five persistent myths that have distorted our understanding of feminine energy. Each misconception gets lovingly dismantled, replaced with a more authentic understanding that serves both personal healing and collective awakening. This isn't about replacing masculine energy with feminine but weaving them together in sacred partnership.

Whether you identify as a woman seeking to reclaim your power or someone of any gender looking to balance your internal energies, this episode offers practical wisdom for embodying feminine energy in everyday life. The invitation is simple yet profound: you don't have to earn or perfect or prove your connection to the divine feminine. You only need to remember it—in your body, your breath, and your being. 

Join me in this remembering that heals not just ourselves but ripples out to heal the world around us. 

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Rise and shine everybody. It's time to wake up with Susan. Spiritual awakening can be a beautiful, messy and sometimes lonely journey, so let's do it together. I'm your host, susan Sutherland. I'm an intuitive healer and spiritual mentor. We are all called to rise up above our conditioning and limiting beliefs and shine our light on ourselves and others. So let's get to it. Hello, my beautiful family, thanks for joining me today.

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Today, we are going to have a heart to heart, not a history lesson, not a list of rules, but a real conversation about the divine feminine. And if you're like, oh, Jan, just hear me out, because there are a lot of myths out there, there's a lot of misunderstandings, and that happens when the base understanding is not rooted in truth. So I want to start with that, with the nugget of what the divine feminine is, so we can start clearing up some of those myths. Okay, the divine feminine isn't a trend or a title or a costume we put on. She is a living energy, an ancient eternal frequency that we carry inside of us and around us. She is the creative force that births life and also the wise force that holds deaths and endings and renewals. She shows up as intuition, as compassion, as creativity, as sensuality, as nurturing, but also as fierce protection, as wildness, as sacred rage, as deep knowing. The divine feminine isn't something you earn. It's not a list of traits that you are seeking to be. She is a remembering. She is coming home to something that has always been yours and she lives in every being, not just women. We each carry feminine and masculine energies inside of us, and both are sacred, both are powerful and both are needed.

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But for a long time we have put the divine feminine into these very narrow, very weird boxes. We've been scrunching her into a Barbie box, y'all, and it is not working for her, and maybe you felt that too. Maybe it hasn't resonated with you because it feels off like it's being crammed into something it's not. There's this idea that being in your divine feminine means you are sweet and soft and passive, or that she's just here to balance out the masculine, like a freaking sidekick, like Wonder Woman has come to play Robin. No, no. So if you've ever felt like you didn't fit the mold, that you were too fierce or too wild or too knowing, there's nothing wrong with you. These molds were never meant to hold the fullness of the divine feminine.

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The divine feminine is not about being small. She is the force of life itself. She is birth and death. She is softness and sovereignty. She is the rose and the mother thorn. Okay, and most importantly, she is not just here to balance the masculine, she is here to be whole in herself. So remember that when the feminine rises, it is not rising against anything, it is not rising against the masculine. It is rising because it is her nature to rise. And here's another thing Sometimes, when people begin to awaken the divine feminine within them, it gets twisted into something very harsh, very abrasive or domineering.

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It's the whole. I'm standing in my power. So F you energy Y'all? No, no to that. The real divine feminine power it's brave and it's soft at the same time. It's so deeply rooted in its knowing that it doesn't need to dominate or overpower. It knows that love is its extension, not harshness. True divine feminine power is unshakable because it's tender. It stands not by force but by presence. It's an energy so bold that it commands respect to the soft smile, not abrasive words. It's a power you don't have to demand. It's a power you embody, all right. So now that we have grounded into what the divine feminine really is, the truth nugget behind this ancient energy.

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Let's clear up a few of the myths together, and these are ones I am still working through. Which is what got us here today is because this needs to be said to you and to Susan, okay. Myth number one the divine feminine is only about nurturing others. It is beautiful to nurture and the real divine feminine energy nurtures life itself, and that includes your own. I can think of times not long ago when I thought being spiritual meant always putting other needs before my own, thinking that martyrdom was some kind of virtue, certainly, having my mother who literally worked herself to death serving others. I came by it honestly. But the feminine doesn't ask you to drain yourself dry. She teaches you that tending to your own garden is what allows you to overflow to others, that if you haven't tended your soil, there is no harvest to share.

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Myth number two to embody the feminine, you must be passive and constantly flowing, without structure, y'all. I'm still working on this, but maybe you felt it too, thinking that if I were really in my feminine, I would not have to plan anything because I would just be in the flow, I would just be allowing. And I tried to live that way because I have such a need for freedom that I was in constant resistance to schedule for order, because I need my freedom. And freedom meant not having anything planned and y'all, honestly, that felt chaotic, not very efficient, not very impactful, not even very free. But I was convincing myself that that's what it was and I'm still working on releasing that belief that schedule compromises my freedom, and I know that it doesn't, but that resistance is still there. Flow is beautiful, but real flow moves with life, not aimlessly. The river has flow, but it also has banks. It doesn't just scatter around, it moves with a purpose. Don't y'all love how I use a podcast to reiterate what I'm supposed to be shifting myself? So, susan, this is your reminder. True feminine energy listens deeply and then moves with purpose and surrender, all right.

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Myth number three the feminine needs to be healed by the masculine. There is a doing quality to it that maybe it comes from outside of yourself, that somebody else is going to have the healing for you, that they are going to love you enough that you know you're healed, that you know you're worthy, that you know you're loved. And while love can be beautiful, real, divine feminine healing doesn't depend on anyone else. She holds her own codes of healing. She invites the masculine to heal with her, not for her. Myth number four being feminine means being perfect or pure or polished. F*** that. I used to think that stepping into my feminine meant I needed to look a certain way, be more graceful, be more polished, be less messy, be less funny, be less playful, be less less me. But real feminine energy is wild, it's messy, it's full of real, raw life. She is the mud and the moonlight, the tears and the laughter. She doesn't ask you to be perfect. She asks you to be real.

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Y'all we came by this honestly. I know y'all had to put on nice clothes to go to church, right, like you had to show God your best side. So that's what we think is to show up in sacred spaces to utilize sacred energies. We must put on a front. We got to pretty it up Y'all. It's not true. That's not true. The divine, feminine and God source energy and all of it asks you to come as you are, in your wildness, in your messiness. The prettied up version of you, that doctored up version that you think is required, that's a barrier actually. Now I'm not saying don't put on a pretty dress if you want to go somewhere, but do it because you feel aligned with that outfit, not because you feel like you need to clean it up to be worthy or to be accepted. That's not true. That's not true. That's not true.

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What I found lately is just understanding that I have multiple aspects of myself. I like to be very silly, I like to be funny and witty. I like to be funny and witty and I like to be deeply ceremonial and sacred. And you know what's wild Is? There is not either of those aspects that is more holy or true or received in a more profound way than the other. It is when I am being authentically me that I am met, when I know that I am held in the most beautiful way. It is because I am being myself exactly as I am. However, that wants to show up through me, because there's not a right or a wrong way. I can honor all aspects of myself and know that they're true. So you don't have to polish it up. You don't have to look a certain way or act a certain way, or dress a certain way or talk a certain way to be embraced by the divine feminine.

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Now, homegirl will ask that you embrace femininity. Embrace your femininity sometimes, and that is because we have shifted so much out of embracing our softness in a way that feels nurturing, in a way that allows you to move through your kitchen with subtle movements or with song. It is embracing the softness that we have allowed. Not just the masculine schedules, but our culture of timing and busyness, and just the feminine, ask you to soften into your life, to allow creativity and intuition to come back, instead of jumping straight into what do I have to get done? What do I have to do? It's about inviting the stillness, inviting the stillness and then inviting the movement, the flow that will lead you then to your schedule so you can take action. But whatever, we'll get there, right, all right. Myth number five but whatever we'll get there, right, all right. Myth number five the divine feminine is a new trend, y'all.

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Nah, I know it seems like it's all the rage now to be talking about the divine feminine energy right now, but she's she's not new, she is ancient, beyond memory. She was here before words, before systems, before the first myths were written. Those were our myths. So let's talk about embodiment. Maybe you're wondering if I'm waking up my divine feminine, what happens to my structure, to my goals, to my drive, to my structure, to my goals, to my drive. Do you toss them away? No, girlfriend, you do not. We're not replacing one side of ourselves with another. We are learning to weave them together in a really beautiful partnership, and I'm still working on it.

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Your inner feminine softens you enough to hear your truth. Your inner masculine builds the pathways for you to live it. The feminine says this is the dream. The masculine says let's create the container to hold it, let's create the playbook. We honor both of those energies in our life when we start taking the time to feel before acting, when we make space for intuition and action, when we allow discipline, even sacred discipline, to arise from devotion and not from force.

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Embodying your feminine doesn't mean losing your focus, susan. It means letting love lead the way. So why are we talking about this now? Why are we trying to clear these myths now? Because when you start to remember her, you start to remember yourself, you start to reclaim parts of you that were never meant to fit into boxes, you stop asking for permission to be whole, and the more of us who do that, the more the sacred returns to the world through us simply living it, simply being the embodiment of wholeness. That's not in ceremony, that's in your carpool line, that's at your dinner table, that's pulling weeds in your garden. That is the embodiment of this energy that heals the whole freaking world. Energy that heals the whole freaking world.

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So, wherever you are today, whether you are feeling soft and still or fierce and rising, know that you are moving in rhythm with something ancient and holy, and you don't have to earn it, you don't have to pretty yourself up for it, you don't have to prove it, you don't have to act it, you only have to remember it. How easy is that? Thank you for being here, thank you for remembering with me. I'll see you next week. Stay close to your heart and stay fully yourself. Be wild, be soft, be loud, be loved. See you next week. Thank you so much for joining me this week. Be sure to not miss any upcoming episodes by subscribing to the podcast. That way, it's available automatically in your RSS feed. This is a crazy journey. Let's do it together.

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